In “How a Shepherd Boy Became a Saint”, Swami Chetananda writes about Swami Adbhutananda, affectionately called Latu Maharaj. This illiterate, gentle, man spent part of his life with Ramakrishna Paramahamsa and Sarada Ma, and became an illumined saint whose life communicates to us that the ultimate wisdom is attained not by intellect, reason, education or cleverness — but by simplicity, love, and (paraphrasing Karen Armstrong from “Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life”) the courage to set the self aside.
We would do well to heed Swami Adbhutananda’s advice:
Let people do whatever they like; you should live according to your….ideal….See your own faults. Always look for the good qualities in others. If fault-finding becomes your habit, you will always see faults in them….It contracts the mind and pollutes the heart.
In “The Discourse Summaries”, a compilation of Dhamma Talks by the Vipassana teacher S. N. Goenka, we hear him say:
Everyone is responsible for his or her own suffering, no-one else. When one experiences this truth, the madness of finding fault with others goes away.
In “The No-Fault Classroom: Tools to Resolve Conflict & Foster Relationship Intelligence”, Sue Hart & Victoria Hudson draw from the principles of Non-Violent Communication:
The well-being of Earthlings depends upon their ability to go to the No-Fault zone when they have a problem to solve or conflict to resolve.
They tell us that, if we choose, we “have the power to co-create No-Fault classrooms, schools and communities.”
They tell us that “Earthlings have the power to create what they can envision and are willing to work for.”